Anti-depressants and odd side effects.

โš ๏ธThis post is to raise awareness of anti-depressants and adverse side effects. โš ๏ธ

I was put on Venlafaxine for my generalised anxiety about 1 1/2 months ago to help me as I was not coping very well. After a while I was getting adverse side effects, predominately persistent vertigo to such a degree that I could barely move my head. After seeing the doctor and getting a blood test the results showed that somehow the venlafaxine was instructing my thyroid directly to produce too many thyroid hormones resulting in ‘hyperthyroidism’. Normally this is caused by the brain telling the thyroid to produce these hormones but somehow the medication has skipped this step.
The thyroid is found at the front of the neck. It produces hormones that affect things such as your heart rate and body temperature.
An overactive thyroid can cause a wide range of symptoms, including: anxiety, nervousness, mood swings, difficulty sleeping, persistent tiredness and weakness, sensitivity to heat, swelling of the neck, irregular heartbeat, twitching, trembling and weight loss.
I have had all these symptoms except the neck swelling and weight loss.

I have had my anti-depressants changed to something similar and I have been on them for nearly 2 weeks now and I have just had another blood test to see if my thyroid is back to normal.. ๐Ÿฅบ๐Ÿค”
If it isn’t it’s a specialist for me.

My doctor is actually a mental health specialist and asked my permission to use my case in an upcoming mental health meeting to discuss ‘identifying physical side effects related to trauma’- I always knew I was special. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™ˆ

I’ll keep you updated, I had the second blood test today (2 blood nurses later and 2 injured sore arms), I’ll get the results on friday. ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿค

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Gardening and mental health.

Why do people garden?

Why do you garden?

๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐Ÿต๐Ÿต๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒท๐Ÿ’ฎ๐Ÿ’ฎ

For me gardening has always been appealing. When I was a little girl I loved looking at peoples beautiful gardens that come in all shapes and sizes with a whole variety of plants and trees, I loved going to see stately homes and old Victorian gardens and I loved helping my nana in the garden- I loved learning from her, learning what plants like to be placed where, about mixing colours throughout the garden, which flowers bloom in spring, summer or late autumn and how to maintain them. This passion grew as I got older, I learnt more about the biology of flowers, soil types, types of gardening, insects and last but most importantly of all pollinators.

The only garden I’ve ever had is the one in my parents house which is a council house with a lot of concrete, some grass for my dogs of a small long raised bed.

I did move into my own house a few years ago but I could only afford a house with a concrete yard, I tried to plant in pots but the lack of sunlight wouldn’t allow it- I lived behind a train track then and the trees blocked out all the sunlight. ๐Ÿ˜ค๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜“

I moved back home last April, I went through a really rough time, as soon I moved back home I felt defeated and got stuck in a rut, then this is when I rekindled my love of gardening. ๐Ÿฅฐ๐ŸŒฒ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฟ

I cleared out parts of the garden that were overgrown, I kept the plants I had given my mum previously that are pollinator friendly and come up with a new plan to make it the most beneficial garden for both me and my parents and wildlife.

Gardening is helping me to cope emotionally, it is a way to express my creativity and to help the environment, especially pollinators which is my main passion.

How is gardening great for your mental health and wellbeing?

Studies have found that the mental health benefits of gardening are extensive.

Not only can regular gardening reduce mental health problems like depression and anxiety, but it can also reduce stress and combat high blood pressure, as well as improving overall physical fitness.

So what is it about pulling up weeds, pruning unruly shrubs and tending to seedlings that makes us feel so good?

A new study has revealed that 81% of British people believe gagardening has a better impact on mental health than hitting the gym- AO.com.

It has always seemed like common sense that being engaged in the natural world is good for us, but in fact there is a lot of research to back this up!

Scientifically, there is a lot of evidence that backs up the use of gardening for our mental, physical and social wellbeing.

Benefits of gardening includes:

  • Moving beyond perfectionism- gardening is really beneficial for those who have an issue with perfectionism. Gardening helps with perfectionism because it doesn’t matter how you visualise your garden and how perfect you want it to be you have to come to terms with the fact that it will never look perfect, it will never look exactly how you want it to look in your head. Plants will overgrow, plants will die, you will make gardening mistakes and there is beauty in how irregular and messy nature can be- you will notice that the neatest gardens do not attract the most wildlife- there is a reason for this!
  • Eating healthy- gardening can encourage you to eat healthy. It is easier than you think to grow some fruit and vegetables in your garden, it doesnt matter what size garden you have you can easily get a pop up greenhouse in the corner of your garden and grow some vegetables. If your a newbie to growing fruit and vegetables, start off by buying some berry bushes (blackcurrant, blackberry, elderberry, etc) and start of with some easy vegetables like chilli’s.
  • Connecting with others- gardening can be a great way to connect with others. Gardening is classed as a hobby which is always a great opportunity to connect with others for advice and to share your work whether it is using social media or with your neighbours. You can also get involved in your local allotment or greenspace, this is a great way to get to know your community and the people local to you and get much needed gardening advice and if your lucky some free saplings, seeds, fruit or vegetables and valuable friendships.
  • Sense of responsibility- for those who are struggling with their mental illnesses to even get out of bed and feel like they have lost their sense of purpose gardening is ideal. Being responsible for a garden or transforming a space is a great activity to give that individual a sense of purpose. They are responsible for the look of the garden, the plants in it and in return they get a finished visual outcome and plenty of wildlife visitors enjoying the garden with them.
  • Connection with nature, spiritual connection with mother earth-People have long been interested in the healing power of nature. Perhaps most famously, Henry David Thoreau spent two years secluded in the woods of Massachusetts while writing Walden, his classic meditation on life and nature. Even in 1845, Thoreau sensed that the forest, or any other outdoor setting, can quiet the mind and improve your health. More than a century and a half later, there is plenty of science on the healing power of nature to back him up. Ecopsychologyโ€”which explores the relationship between human beings and the natural worldโ€”is a growing field, and studies show that spending time in nature can reduce stress, improve overall feelings of wellbeing and happiness, raise your energy level and even increase your capacity for caring.
  • Quiet, plants don’t judge- plants like animals don’t judge, the garden is a completely safe, quiet and unjudgemental space and a peaceful haven to be in- it is your own haven, your own comfortable space.
  • Creativity/ therapeutic- in the garden you can really express your creativity, you can express your artistic skills, chose your favourite colours, your favourite flowers, your favourite scents, fill your garden with ornaments, anything you want- there really is something therapeutic about creating something with your own hands.
  • Encourages you to live in the moment/ be present- while gardening you do think about how it will all piece together but gardening actually teaches you to live in the moment. When you go in the garden you think about what needs doing at that particular time and helps you focus on the task at hand- this keeps you in the present moment.
  • Growth mindset/ being ok with making mistakes- similar to perfectionism gardening teaches you that its ok to make mistakes. You will make mistakes while gardebeing such as pulling up a sprout thinking it’s a weed, over or underwatering a plant, putting a plant in the wrong position- all mistake are ok and an opportunity to learn.
  • Good way to vent anger and frustration- there’s no better way to vent your frustration than going in the garden and cutting an overgrown plant or bush and pulling up some weeds.
  • Accomplishment/ creating something with your own hands- it is satisfying seeing that all your hard work has paid off. It is satisfying and makes you happy to see that all your hard work ha paid off, you can see how wonderful your garden has turned out and what makes it better is seeing willife enjoying it and even your neighbours, famiy and friends complimenting you on your good work.
  • Connection with wildlife/beneficial for wildlife– gardening gives you a great way of being connected with nature, planting pollinator friendly plants and flowers, seeing the butterflies and bees visit your garden, gardening a great way to watch the birds and encourage them into your garden by feeding them, and even better if you get mammal visitors like hedgehogs, badgers, and even better foxes- there’s nothing more rewarding than seeing rare visitors in your garden and knowing you are helping the wildlife around you.
  • Physical benefits- gardening can be good for yur physical health too, it can aid weight loss, strengthen muscles, help with your balance and flexibility, reduce bone loss, help blood circulation, improve your ccoordination, improve your strength and strengthen your immune system whilst getting some vimain d in your system.

Why I love gardening and how it helps me:

I am naturally a creative person and I love nature so gardening has always been an interest of mine and I spend a lot of time learning about it. I love asking others especially the older generation about their gardening habits and what they like to plant and how and then updating my knowledge with modern gardening practices; my garden knowledge is exclusively wildlife gardening and how to make any type of space beneficial for both humans and wildlife especially pollinators- it has given me lots of opportunities to broaden my knowleedge, I love learning.

All the plants I have chosen for my garden are pollinator friendly and especially encourage bees. I love choosing specific plants for their colours, how they grow and where I can place them in the garden, how they will interact and piece together with the rest of the garden, how they will affect the ecosystem of the garden, and how they will benefit the wildlife, I get really excited seeing new plants on sale, especially old world plants such as wildflowers, ferns etc. In my garden I have a cowslip, borage, poppies, bergamot, mint and other wildflowers and herbs.

I love taking the new plants out into the garden and planning where to put them- I am a very visual and methodlogical person and I like taking the time to think where is best the plant and where I want it to be.

I always garden without gloves because I love my hands being in the soil, it is very therapeutic and calming, it reminds me of such activities when you are little and you run your hands through sand when building a sand castle or when you dip your hands in a rock pool- it is such a simple action that brings so much happiness plus I personally believe (with being a spiritual person) that mother earth is a great healer and by touching the earth I am connecting with her and feel her healing.

I love touching the plants with my bare hands and planting them in the soil- it helps my mind remain calm, focused on the task in hand and helps me stay present in that moment and it makes me so happy to be helping my local wildlife and being around nature in general.

I love seeing how the plants grw, controlling exactly how i want them to grow, visualising how I want the garden to look and helping my family to enjoy it espcially in the nice weather and seeing all the wildlife come visit and benefiting from it too.

I feel like when I am gardening because I am caring for something else and focusing on the task at hand my brain just goes completely quiet, I enter a meditative state of mind where all my invasive and negative thoughts are pushed to the back of my mind and I am calm, grounded, in a place where I can wear what I want, be surrounded by calming noises, enjoy the sun and see my work in progress- what’s better than that?!

I have learnt not only about plants, soil and wildlife through gardening but I have learnt to not be such a perfectionist, that simple and creative tasks are perfect to quiet a racing mind, you can not control everything and this shouldn’t be scary- nature is uncontrollable, messy but beautiful and it is not ours to own or control, just to help, heal and enjoy.

Most of all it haS helped me stay connected with the natural world whilst I am learning to drive and am unable to get a job in the envirornamental sector at the moment, it is not only a hobby for me but can help me in my career.

Scientific studies on gardening and mental health:

Good gardening websites:

https://www.treehugger.com/lawn-garden/10-great-gardening-websites.html

https://www.independent.co.uk/property/gardening/the-best-gardening-websites-861791.html

http://www.thegardeningwebsite.co.uk/

https://www.rhs.org.uk/advice

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/gardening/3347980/Gardening-websites-The-top-10.html

Thanks for reading.

Happy gardening. ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฒ๐ŸŒณ๐Ÿ’š

Faye xx

Depersonalization is really affecting me atm.

For quite some time my depersonalization has been really bothering me, it is something I can’t quite shake off.

So what is Depersonalization? How does it make me feel? Why do I have it?

Depersonalization is a sense of detachment within yourself and everyone around you.

Did you ever have the dream when you were little of jumping out of your body and viewing yourself sleeping in the bed? It is quite like this, it is described as feeling like you are observing yourself from outside your body or like being in a dream.

It feels like your consciousness isn’t quite with you, it feels like your body is just a vessel, it is doing everything automatically from your daily routine to your thoughts, you feel disconnected from yourself and others, you feel emotionally numb and disconnected in general. These symptoms can interfere with a person’s general functioning, including social and work activities and relationships.

My body has this response because of the trauma that I have undergone, it is a typical trauma response that is part of both my complex post traumatic stress disorder and my generalised anxiety disorder and also my major depressive disorder.

According to Mind, a mental health charity based in the United Kingdom, dissociation can be a strategy for calming down, to help a person cope in times of ongoing stress- neurologically, it may involve an imbalance in brain chemicals.

The last time I went to my doctor was 2 weeks after my laproscopy and I was really suffering with my depersonalization. He is a mental health specialist and explained to me in detail why I have certain symptoms during times of stress and how my body reacts.

Basically during times on ongoing stress (it doesn’t matter whether its various small stresses, or a major stressful event) my mind and body goes into a flight or fight response.

The depersonalization kicks in along with other symptoms because in a way it is my brain protecting me from the stress I am undergoing- because I cannot physically escape the stress, my mind does. It may also be worse as of late because of going back on anti-depressants again.

I have had a rough few months and I know it is going to take time for me to get better but the depersonalization is one of the symptoms that scares me the most. It is scary because it feels like my mind is playing tricks on me, I struggle to tell what is real and what isn’t, I feel more disconnected to everyone around me than ever, I struggle to understand what is me, who am I? and this throws of my anxiety and seriously affects my self esteem.

Some days I will be completely fine but then others it is really bad, I don’t discuss it with anyone because it is such a hard concept to even explain or understand myself, how can I possibly expect someone else to understand it.

I tried explaining it to my mum but the scared look in her eyes really wasn’t the reaction I was looking for.

I am hoping the more I settle into my new job and by finding ways of reducing my stress levels and the longer I take my anti-depressants that this symptom will dissopate.

I am planning to do much more reading on this symptom in the hope that I can understand it and with better understanding that I can cope with it better.

If anyone knows of any information please send it me over.

Here’s hoping that it will eventually go away.

Fingers crossed.

Be kind to your mind. ๐Ÿง ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ฌ๐Ÿ—จ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ™Œ

“Be kind to your body, gentle with your mind and patient with your heart. Stay true to your spirit, cherish your soul and never doubt yourself. You are still becoming, my love, and there is no one more deserving of the nurturing grace of your love”- Becca Lee.

๐Ÿง ๐Ÿง ๐Ÿง ๐Ÿง ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

#bekind
#bekindtoyourself
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#mindfulness
#mindfulmind
#kindness
#trainyourmind
#mentalhealthawareness
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Finally some good luck! ๐Ÿพโค๐Ÿ‘

I’ve had quite a rough time this past year after finishing university including, health issues, breaking up with my fiance at the time, moving back in with my parents and starting all over and going through crappy jobs whilst trying to learn to drive.

My little brother has finally had his beautiful baby boy- Elijah. ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘ถ๐Ÿšผ

I instantly connected with him as soon as I saw him. ๐Ÿ˜

He’s such a beautiful little boy with a full head of hair and its curly hair, me and my brother hi fived because the curly hair gene has been passed on. ๐Ÿ‘ง๐Ÿง‘

I cannot wait to nurture him, teach him, listen to him and be there for him, I cannot wait to see the man he grows up to be. ๐Ÿฅฐ

I also finally got a new job!

I’ve been treated awfully in the current job I’m in, I’ve been touched inappropriately, bullied, put up with sexism in the workplace, little to no training or support, I’ve had my stuff binned, I’ve had my holidays denied to me and last but not least I’ve been pressured to come into work too soon straight after my operation.

This new job is amazing, it’s so much more money, it’s better hours, it’s a job I cannot wait to work, its intriguing, the business is amazing and so are the people that work there, there is plenty of development opportunities and support and training- I genuinely cannot wait to work there and get myself out of the job I’m in now.

I am so happy that I finally have had some luck my way.

I am so grateful to the universe! ๐ŸŽ‡โœจ๐ŸŽ†

Endometriosis and PCOS- my journey through infertility issues. ๐Ÿ˜”โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฐ๐Ÿคฑ๐Ÿฆธโ€โ™€๏ธ

This post is about my journey with fertility issues and being diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and Endometriosis.

Since starting my period at the age of 12 I have struggled.

I struggled with the heavy bleeding to the point where I could not leave the house and it greatly affected my day to day life along with the insufferable pain where I could barely get out of bed.

I was taken to the doctors by my mum at first because I was such a young age and was recommended to take the contraceptive pill.

I carried on taking the pill for some years, trying all different brands of contraceptive pills switching from one to another until I’d had enough of them not working, the pain was still there, the bleeding hadn’t gotten any better, it made my acne worse and give me a shed loads of other symptoms that I could no longer justify along with symptoms I couldn’t explain.

So I then at age 18 tried the contraceptive injection, this was better as it lasted 13 weeks and I didn’t need to worry about taking a pill every day but again I suffered side effects, it made my acne significantly worse and my pain.

I went to my doctor yet again explaining the pain and the symptoms I was experiencing and it was suggested that I could have polycystic ovarian syndrome.

I took 2 years to finally get diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) after firstly undergoing 3 blood tests where the 3rd one was finally found my hormones to be abnormal which then triggered the doctors to send me to the womens hospital to get a hystoscopy and an ultrasound. The blood tests concluded that I had polycystic ovarian syndrome- my hormones are unbalanced, I produce very little progesterone and too much estrogen.

The hystoscopy was not a pleasant experience and hurt so bad that I was stuck at home for 3 days afterwards.

They then concluded that I have 24 cysts on average on each ovary that keep replacing. I am producing too many eggs in my ovaries that do not reach full development and rather than getting released they remain there. Luckily I still have monthly periods (most months) which is a good sign but this overall concluded that I have cysts and polycystic ovarian syndrome as some women only have the syndrome and some only the cysts, I have both.

I thought after this I would get the help I needed especially with pain management but I was definitely wrong.

Contraception wise they then recommended the non-hormonal coil so I decided to give that a try and I thought it would be better because now knowing that I have a hormonal issue the last thing I wanted to do was to put artificial hormones in my system and make things worse.

This was definitely the worse mistake I could have made!! You are not meant to feel the IUD coil at all but I could feel it all the time and not only that I was NOT warned that it could make me bleed continuously for 4 months! The pain was 10x worse and I wasn’t able to barely function or move or have anything to do with my partner at the time due to the pain.

I soon got it taken out!!!

I carried on going to my doctor after the diagnosis still asking for help with the pain, the fatigue and the symptoms I experienced.

Every time I mentioned the pain I felt like no matter how many doctors I tried I wasn’t being taken seriously, I was given painkillers (zapain- codeine and paracetamol) and told that was all they could do. I felt like because it was pain in the uterus and abdominal area and because I am a woman the type of pain I was experiencing wasnt taken seriously so in a way period pain and getting diagnosis for fertility issues is a feminist issue.

(They did recommend the mirena coil IUD but after already having one with such horrible effects no way was I about to try that again!)

When I mentioned the fatigue they literally just said well its too difficult to diagnose chronic fatigue syndrome, it can be part of your depression, are you just tired because youre depressed. This was the most infriating response I could have gotten.

I went through university struggling, some of my friends and students I go to class with would have wondered to themselves where I was most of the time, quite a lot of the time I had to stay home as my fatigue and pain was so severe I couldn’t get out of the house.

On really bad days where i had to go to university i spent the day dazed out on painkillers, struggling just to walk up the stairs, stay awake and concentrate long enough to pay attention in a lecture, I would have to get taxis too and from university as I was too exhausted to walk from the bus or train.

I’ve been in this same pattern until recently.

In April 2018 I moved back home to North Wales after finishing university and I asked my old doctor from here to refer me to a gynecologist here. After waiting a few months I went to the gynecologist, explained my symptoms and most of all my pain and the response I got was “PCOS isn’t a painful conditions, something else must be causing the pain?!”

I was totally dumbfounded by this, why didn’t any other doctor tell me this??? I’d been to see so many surely one could have told me this, or perhaps it wasn’t true.

They went through the symptoms of Endometriosis with me and after a long discussion with the gynecologist we found that I have all the symptoms of this condition and my mum also has this condition which happened to increase my chances of having it. There and then they decided to send me for a laproscopy to investigate.

I waited 8 months to get a laparoscopy appointment and 2 days before they cancelled on me for a stupid reason but luckily they had a cancellation and I was able to get the operation a day before my actual operation should have been- Wednesday the 24th June.

Due to the short notice no- body was able to come with me which made my anxiety sky rocket to a whole new level that no amount of meditation, positive thinking or deep breathing would fix.

I wasn’t nervous upon arriving, meeting a lovely lady and having an in depth discussion about our lives and a little laugh that I nearly broke the TV in the waiting room helped.

I was shattered due to not getting in the previous day until 2am due to seeing pink the previous night plus I was on my period… I only started getting nervous when they told me to put my gown on, the terrible hospital knickers and the awful stockings.

Don’t I look sexy! They use these to reduce blood clots. I did wear my new converse trainers to cheer me up somewhat.

After getting dressed I had to talk to both the gynecologist who was conducting my operation, she was a woman which made me feel 100% better as every other gynecologist I’d seen previously had been a man and very unsympathetic towards me.

My gynecologist performing the operation this time was so compassionate, patient, methodical and respectful. She took the time to talk me through all my insecurities, about every step of the operation and the conclusions she may come to after the operation- she was even kind enough to fasten my gown as I could not reach the ties to fasten it properly.

Next I saw the anaesthetist, he was very cold, to the book and just wanted to ask me the routine questions about putting me under.

After speaking to both the anaesthetist and gynecologist all I had to do was wait for the nurse to come and get me when they were ready for me in the theatre.

I thought I would be nervous with the waiting so I brought a magazine with me in my overnight bag ( they always ask you to bring in an overnight bag in just in case), I also brought my charger and headphones in case I wanted to listen to an audiobook or podcast or some music.

I did none of these, I attempted to read my magazine but I was getting more twitchy and more nervous as time went on, I must have gone to the toilet 3 times within half an hour (I wee a lot or think I need a wee a lot when I get really anxious), and the factor that I was uncomfortable in the hospital knickers because my sanitary towel would not stick to them properly.

After about 30-40 minutes a nurse came and asked me for a pregnancy test which I blatantly said there was no point of as I’m not sexually active and haven’t been for some time they told me it’s just procedure and I had to do one anyway.

Once handing it to a nurse I was told they were ready for me in the theatre and another lovely nurse walked me down the hall into another ward, I was sat down where I had to answer the same routine questions again and she led me to a small room, theatre room 1.

This room was tiny but had room for some cabinets, a medical bed, a heart rate machine and 6 people. I was sat on the bed, given a cushion and made comfortable, introduced to 3 out of 6 people and a needle was put into the back of my hand so they could give me fluids for the operation- I couldn’t really feel the fluids, the needle hurt though.

It was at this point I experienced the worse panic attack I’ve had in a long time, it was so bad they had to give me more drugs to slow heart rate down before giving me the anesthetic. It took them a good 10 minutes to calm me down, the nurse beside me was a life saver and so kind, compassionate and reassuring.

They then gave me an oxygen mask and told me it was just oxygen, it was for a few minutes but then I soon smelt and tasted the anesthetic and within what felt like seconds I was out of it.

I woke up in what felt like a second. I woke up stressed and disorientated, I went into another panic attack, my head felt awful, I felt so confused that I didnt know what had happened to me or what room I was in.

I remember banging the metal bars on my bed, trying to pull out the needle in my hand and feeling like I was going to fall right off the bed. My chest was killing me because my heart rate was so fast and the pain soon hit me like a freight train, it was such a shock to the system that I instantly started crying my eyes out.

The nurse who was there the first time was there again holding my hand calming me down, she was honestly a life saver. They give me morphine and the pain slowly started to numb down a little. The gynecologist I saw earlier came to me and explained a little bit to me what had gone on during the operation but she could tell I was out if it and disorientated that I wasnt going to take any of it in so she agreed to come back to see me later on.

They rolled me back to the original ward, the lovely gentleman who was pushing my bed kept me distracted by asking me questions about my interests, I ended up mentioning how much I loved bees and even when I was dosed up with morphine and feeling groggy and confused as hell I could still teach people about bees and make them laugh- what can I say it’s a gift. Keeping me talking was the best method at that time as it kept me distracted from the pain.

As i came into the ward I was soon reminded of how much pain I was inland it took some time for the pain to go away. I soon noticed that my underwear was gone due to the draft on my bum, i soon covered myself up and asked when I could my own underwear and clothes on again to feel more comfortable but I wasnt allowed to yet, I was passed some tissues by the husband of a patient next to me and I spoke to them a little and this helped me to unwind aand relax a little.

The nurses came and gave me something little to eat and some water and a cup of tea as I fasted for the operation and was starving and they put a tube down your throat during the operation- my throat was is dry and sore I felt like I could barely breathe without it stinging.

After about a little while the gynecologist came back and asked to speak to me…. this is what I’d been dreading.

I somehow knew within every ounce of my being that I had endometriosis but to what degree and how would it affect me in the future if I ever want children? Did they get rid of it? Is it just in the womb? Is it manageable?

The gynecologist went on to explain to me that she had found 4-5 large spots of Endometriosis inside the uterus which she was able to mostly burn off however, the rest of it and a considerable amount of it is behind my uterus attaching my uterus to my bowel. She showed me the pictures – I was horrified by how much there was and she soon said “no wonder you’re in pain all the time”.

At this point I did not know how to feel, I felt relieved somewhat because now I had a reason behind the pain and years of suffering but then I was hit with tyre reality that I now have both PCOS and this, i felt like i had the worse luck in the world when it comes to being a woman and if course I had to ask the question of- would it be possible for me to carry children and conceive in the future? To this I got a rather vague and unsatisfactory answer- “You could try conceiving naturally and see what happens, see if you can get pregnant, it may take a long time and be very difficult… actually being pregnant would be good for your Endometriosis because it would stop growing for 9 months.”

Is this a joke I thought?!

She then told me I would have to await biopsy results to see what stage Endometriosis I have, be referred to a bowel specialist where they could again go through the same operation but more extensively to burn the Endometriosis off my bowel and from behind my uterus and that I would be given the contraceptive pill (again) but rather than the traditional way of taking it for a month and then having a period, I have to take it for 3 months straight then have a period because it turns out that my periods make the Endometriosis spread and grow causing the issue.

I soon got dressed after seeing the gynecologist, thanked all the lovely staff, said goodbye to everyone and went home.

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It is now a week after my operation and I am still recovering.

This was after the operation, I was very sore groggy and still full of gas.

The remaining of the gas is just now coming out of my system and I no longer feel nauseous and sick, my appetite is slowly coming back.

(The pain gets trapped behind your shoulders and it is the most painful feeling you could imagine exactly like someone stabbing you in between the shoulder blades. The gas makes you constantly feel sick and makes your stomach huge- I felt like a hippo).

I have done nothing but sleep and rest the entire time, the period type pain in my uterus has been 100x worse than normal and so has my fatigue., I constantly feel tired and out of it, I feel like I am not entirely here, nothing seems real, I feel like I’m still in a dream land a little, my head feels like I’ve been on a 10 day bender and I’m on a rocking boat. It’s not a pleasant feeling.

I have 3 stitches in total that are relatively small but the pain is internal I am so sore that its painful to just move around and I found myself getting out of breath trying to do the simplest of things.

All this has definitely had a mental toll on me too. I feel emotionally drained and defeated and quite sorry for myself at the moment, it is by no means easy news to take.

So for the mean time I am continuing to rest, I have an appointment with the bowel specialist in October, I am waiting for my biopsy results and I am hoping now I have the diagnosis of Endometriosis if I go to my doctors talking about the pain I get on a regular basis they will now take me seriously and help me!

I’ll keep you updated.

Thanks for reading.

Sorry it’s been so long.

Until next time.

Faye xxxxx